Things Indian Men should do on their First Date

Know your couple type to transform your relationship

2011-12-14T22:27:00.000-08:00

Do you and your partner often find yourself in the middle of blazing rows? Turns out, you are the 'Cat and Dog' couple type.

Psychologists say identifying the type of couple type we are - or would like to be - holds the key to a happy relationship and being able to understand our own needs and those of our partner, reports the Daily Mail.

Experts have identified six different 'couple types' that we all fall into.

One is the 'Cat and Dog' type. As the name suggests, this couple fight constantly, in private and in public.

This kind of couple may be attracted to one another because they enjoy the cycle of fight and make up (often accompanied by passionate sex).

The second type is called the pursuer/distancer couple, in which one partner is in pursuit of the other, trying to secure their attention and affection.

"One pretends they don't want to know and the other enjoys the thrill of the chase," says relationship psychologist Susan Quilliam.

"Often, couples take it in turns to play the pursuer or distancer. Whenever one senses the other is losing interest, they will switch.

The third type of couple is the 'Parent and child', wherein one feels responsible for nurturing the other, who they regard as less capable.

"The parent partner is attracted because they feel that in caring for this person, they have found a purpose in life," says Quilliam.

"The child partner may lack self-esteem or be a supreme coper who wants a break," she added. (ANI)

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Top 10 gifts for your Girlfriend

2011-12-14T21:42:00.000-08:00

Gifts and Surprises: These two words are sure to get your girlfriend excited any time of the day, at any given hour.

While the words may get the her excited and enthusiastic, the wrong choice of gift and/or surprise will cause her face to lose colour before you can begin to give any explanation. So before you run out of any ideas, or fall prey to cheesy ones or lose face by gifting her the wrong surprise, read our list of Top 10 Gifts for Your Girlfriend.

(The listed gifts are in no particular order of preference)

10. Couple Spa Date

'Women are predictable!' is what men said when asked what gifts you'd give your girlfried. A very debatable statement, but an extremely safe gift choice. Women LOVE Spa. Arrange a Date Spa evening and she won't stop smiling. This is a great way to relax, enjoy each others company and flirt with intimacy.

9. Girls Night Out

This one is surely an unusual gift choice, but one that will get you into her best books asap. Sponsoring and organising a finely planned night out for her and her besties will show her how much you care for her and the girls who matter to her the most. It does not have to extravagant, a simple fair can seal the deal and steal her heart.

8. A Perfect Date

If you can make the effort to plan an evening for her with her girlies, go the extra mile and plan the perfect Date with her. A date night, in the middle of the Arabian sea in a yacht. Add to that a romantic candle light dinner, soulful music, soothing wine and she will be swooning all over you before the date is anywhere near the end.

7. 2 Bags full of Zara clothing

Hahaha! This one is surely a no-brainer. Clothes, accessories, shoes make a woman go CRAZY! Spurlge on her. If you know her choice well, pick some elegant and fashionable clothing for her from Zara, Vero Moda, Mango and the likes. If she is the fussy choosy types, escort her to these stores and pay the dutiful bag-holder and bill-payer. Women, at the end of the day, love to be pampered.

6. A branded watch/perfume

This is the staple gift to give when you can't think of anything to give. You can never go wrong with awatch or a perfume unless you are a real douche! Don't buy her fakes or duplicates, she won't appreciate it, will never use them and might refuse to see you ever again. If you are short on money, buy an original Titan instead of going all out and fancy.

5. A silver waist chain

Now this one reads unconventional all the way round. But it spells intimate and personal to the core. Getting her to wear an accessory around her waist at all times is ensuring you're by her side 24/7. This gift will leave a smile on her face for days to come, and whenever she feels the chain she is bound to go pink with joy!

4. A smartphone / laptop

Most girls don't LOVE gadgets, but that does not mean they don't want to possess the latest one to use as a fashion accessory. Gift her an Apple iphone or a Blackberry or a Dell laptop even. Gifting an everyday essential item like this is safe, is sure to please her and gets her to not expect another gift for quite a while.

3. A weekend getaway

Every other human being is stressed today. With work, family, friends, social obligations you may find yourself to have very little time left to be with your girlfriend. If you and she are feeling this time crunch, plan an easy, comfortable weekend getaway. It doesn't have to be fancy, but surely can be romantic. A long drive, followed by a comfortable stay in a good hotel will uplift your and her spirits and bring you'll closer.

2. A credit card add-on

Now this one reads COMMITMENT. Don't venture down this road if she is not the ONE. But once you do gift her a credit card add-on, (and provided she accepts) you have very clearly, smoothly and sauvely sealed the deal.

1. Commitment/Engagement Ring

While the above gift will seal the deal, this one will clinch it. Women take particular pride in wearing their commitment/engagement ring around the ring finger. It does not have to be a huge solitaire, nor can it be a cheap plastic round mould. Buy one that goes with her sensibilities and your pocket.

Things You Should Never Tell Your Girlfriend

2011-12-10T09:38:00.000-08:00

There are certain things women would never share with their men. Similarly there are things that we men should always keep under wraps from our women; no matter what.

These unholy secrets can effectively mar the future of what would have been a long and blissful union. Sure we should communicate, and not bottle up our emotions. But there are things that need to be kept under the purda of eternal secrecy.

Divulging these secrets would mean handing over to her whatever clout or leverage that you had earned in your relationship.

Here are the top things your gal should never know about you. If she ever discovers any of these little secrets, then man-o-man, you are in for a time that I wouldn’t exchange for a million bucks:

Number of times you got laid

Its something that we all love bragging about. Most people have a list of conquests (real or imaginary) that they love to read out to their friends. However, you should never ever give your current lover a running tally of your conquests. Sure, you ain’t a virgin. You can go ahead and tell her that, but you are also not the kind of guy would sleep with every Tina, Deepa and Maya.

Your annual salary

Hey, its something that only your family needs to know. It’s great if your salary can be described as enviable, but there is no need to brag it to get a girl. And if your latest hottie does try to dig up the details of your bank balance, then beware you might be dealing with a potential gold digger.

Your Stash of Porn

All guys like porn. A lot of chicks do, too. However, there is absolutely no need for you to Open Sesame your prized collection of dirty sex and expect her to appreciate you for it. Chances are the second she lays her eyes on your stash, she will start bickering about how she can never hope to compete with Jenna Jameson whenever she sleeps with you.

And this is actually the good part. If you have the ill-fortune of falling for the proverbial Indian vestal Virgin, protect your porn with your life. She might be so disgusted that she will either dump you or worse throw out your collection when you aren't looking.

Your weaknesses

Maybe you are a complete softie who gladly empties his pockets every time a raggedy old beggar begs for money, or who cried buckets while watching Black. Or you are simply not as self-confident as you make yourself out to be in public. None of these should matter as long as you aren’t overly explicit about them.

She might find it cute, but realising that her man isn't quite the man that she thought he was, will turn her off entirely. Be h4 and keep your weeknesses undercover.

Your strip club experiences

So the last time you flew to Bangkok, you weren’t able to resist the urge of entering a couple of stripping joints and ogle at babes as they peeled off their tiniest bits of modesty? If you think that sharing your Videshi pleasures with your girl will lead her to give you a Desi version of it, then you might well be mistaken.

Or you had once felt encouraged to pay your way into a girls legs. Avoid sharing such experiences, with your girl as they can bust up your balls in ways you can’t imagine.

Really weird fantasies

Sharing sexual fantasies can result in some really amazing sex. Perhaps you love the idea of your babe dressing like a maharathi maid and going down on you, then you should of course share with your girl. But if your fantasies are of the kinkier, weirder kind involving your power tools and suchlike, use them to blow off some steam in toilet. In other words just keep them to yourself.

Your masturbation frequency

Now this is something that only you need to know. Women know that guys shag. It's a fact of life. But you don’t have to share this piece of knowledge with her. Women get visibly upset if they find out their guy feels encouraged to have a one-on-one with their dicks even after they are doing their best to pleasure them in bed.

Your ex-girlfriend

Anything related to your torrential affairs with previous girlfriends that you have so lovingly stored in your head, needs to be either locked up in your bank vault or buried deep in the backyard. You don’t want your current girl digging up those incriminating love letters or nude photos of your ex. So, even if you are certain that she's willing to leave the past in the past you can bet that she won't balk at dropping their names as ammo in future fights.

Now that you know what information you should keep well-hidden from your woman, you will never be caught off balance, as far as your relationship with your current flame is concerned.

Things Indian Men should do on their First Date

2011-12-10T09:31:00.000-08:00

We always learn from our experience.

However, experience signifies our past mistakes and things which we have learnt from them. It is better if we do not commit mistakes and do all the tasks in a perfect manner. Men behave according to their nature while dating. It is acceptable to behave according to the situations and the nature of a person but while dating some things are expected from men. If you do the following 4 things while dating a girl then chances of your success will surely increase.

Dressing up properly

Believe it or not “first impression is the last impression”. If you are going on your first date, choose your clothes with care. Clothes are very important to mark a positive impression on girls. Girls do not like to date a man who does not have good sense of dressing. Avoid wearing bright colored clothes. Black and other dark colors look good on men.

Give respect to the girl

Forgetting to hold a girl’s hand when she needs it, not opening the door of the car or a restaurant for her, sitting before her without pulling the chair out for her; things like these do not go unnoticed by girls. Always avoid these things and do such activities which show that you respect all the girls. Never abuse other girls for any reason. Always speak positively about girls.

Use your sense of humor

If you have good sense of humor then use it on your first date (obviously on successive dates as well). Every girl wants to date a guy who is witty and able to keep the atmosphere fun. Do not crib about your past or anything else. Try to make the girl enjoy your company as much as possible. If she enjoys your company then she would love to come on a date again with you.

Compliment the girl honestly and with reasons

It seems very easy to compliment a girl but in reality men mostly compliment the girls in the wrong manner. While you compliment a girl, look in to her eyes and give reasons for your compliment. Do not give dishonest compliments. Girls know how they look and what their shortcomings are. They will spot your dishonest compliments very easily. While complimenting a girl, go in to the details. For instance, if you like a girl’s hairs then tell her exactly what you like about her hairs.